Andrew Pain Speaker | PHSCE & Lifestyle & Well-being & Teacher CPD & Sex Education & Mental Health & Conference & Happiness

Andrew Pain

Motivational mental health Speaker, talking about; men's mental health, toxic masculinity, allyship, psychological safety, burnout and domestic violence (MICF MPSA MISMA)

Andrew is a TEDx and CPD accredited speaker, a podcaster, award-winning campaigner and author of: 'Honestly, Man: why masculinity feels confusing, shame doesn’t help and what to do about it’. Andrew is donating 100% of profits made from book sales to charities/projects supporting men and boys work in the UK, because through the book, he’s keen to inspire, educate and also deliver practical solutions for the challenges society faces.

Serving diverse organisations such as: National Highways, HSBC, University of Liverpool, Amazon, NFU Mutual, Aston University, Birmingham City University, National House Building Council, The Crown Estate etc, Andrew is on a mission to create decisive and resilient communities of people, to reduce burnout, and promote cross cultural and cross gender allyship.

A full time speaker since 2022, Andrew is a survivor of long-term domestic violence in a former marriage, and alongside his speaking work on men’s mental health and wellbeing, he also talks about the struggles faced by male and female survivors, the need for gender unity in tackling domestic abuse, why people fall into and get stuck in abusive relationships, how to support people caught in abuse, how gaslighting and coercive control is manifested within abusive relationships, and the easy-to-spot differences between healthy and abusive relationship dynamics.

His podcast, Men on Show, has so far aired 60 episodes and will relaunch in 2027, celebrating the stories of ordinary men doing amazing things in order to inspire the current and next generation of men, whilst also exploring their views on modern masculinity, addiction, the manosphere and how to create a healthy generation of young men. Listen to Andrew's podcast here

Andrew also talks about porn addiction, exploring: a) why porn addiction is worse today than 40 years ago, b) why it's so dangerous for the viewer in terms of their mental, emotional and physical health and their future intimate relationships, and c) how to create healthier conversations about porn, so we can remove the sense of shame and stigma, and make meaningful progress in reducing porn addiction.

Andrew delivers the following keynote talks (learning points available on request):

Honestly Man: why masculinity feels confusing, shame doesn’t help and what to do about it.
Burnout Proof: Collective and individual habits which actually work
Signs We Miss: A survivors guide to building abuse-aware communities
Clear Under Pressure: How to make wise decisions when the stakes are high and you need to think fast
The Two Imposters: Why 85% battle a syndrome which ‘fake it until you make it’ won’t fix
Crack the Cliques: Workplace belonging in just 3 steps

Outside of his work, Andrew is also a father of 5, with 3 boys under 13, which means he's a warzone reporter, neurotic health and safety officer, peace negotiator, triage nurse, masterful blackmailer and bribery guru, a highly-strung tutor, maid, cook and cleaner, and failing caretaker.

See his showreel below:

Testimonials from Teachers

I recently watched Andrew's webinar on procrastination through CIMA last week and having watched quite a few webinars through 2020/21, I have to say, it's one of the best I've seen. He is an incredibly skilled presenter and has a presenting style which draws the viewer/listener in effortlessly.

– Mark Francis, Chief Financial Officer, Spotlight Sports Group

Andrew's keynote talk was insightful, inspiring and grounded with a clear and compelling purpose, and he then delivered equally impressive sessions on Growth Mindset. We had high expectations of the day because of the reviews we had heard about Andrew and he met these. He is a real asset to any study skills, motivational or enrichment experience.

– Matthew Pike, Head of Sixth Form, Sir Thomas Fremantle Secondary School

I booked Andrew to deliver a half-day leadership workshop for a group of third sector CEOs, giving them practical strategies to help them make critical business decisions under pressure and do so promptly and with minimal stress. The session received rave reviews, both in terms of the original content, take-aways and delivery style and I recommend Andrew, both as a compelling and engaging public speaker, and as a workshop facilitator.

– Charles McLachlan, Founder, Future Perfect Company

Our short session with Andrew was informative and uplifting. Our team found is refreshing and reassuring that Andrew was able to share some of his own struggles. From conversations with colleagues since, I know that this has given more people the courage to ask for help. We would love to hear more from Andrew and will be inviting him to speak at our next Trust INSET day.

– Sophie Murfin, CEO/ Executive Principle, Wise Owl Trust

"Andrew was on time and most informative for our students. Thank you."

– Katy Chester, Assitant Headteacher, St Thomas More School

"Very happy. Great talk – took a great approach with what can be a difficult subject. Already received lots of positive comments from pupils. Someone we will definitely want to have back again."

– Liz Huxley Capurro , Head of PSHE, Stowe School

"Andrews' sessions went really well! Andrew was great and the students really engaged with him. He was really passionate about the sessions and worked really hard to get his story across."

– Abigail Harvey, Personal Development Manager, Joseph Chamberlain College

"Andrew's session were fantastic thank you. They went really well!"

– Abigail Harvey, Personal Development Manager & SENCO, Joseph Chamberlain College